Never Easy. Never Alone.

Today’s reflection is on the Sixth Sunday in Ordinary Time, Sunday February 17, 2019, and the readings can be found by clicking here. This reflection was given as a homily at the Deuel Vocational Institute, California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation, in Tracy.
In one my favorite parts of the movie, The Princess Bride, Princess Buttercup is taken captive by the Dread Pirate Roberts, and she’s lamenting how hard it was for her when her true love, Wesley, had himself been taken captive and killed. She complains how much it pained her to know her true love had died–to which he unsympathetically replies, “Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.”
Indeed, life is pain. And I found it to be quite true that, “Anyone who says differently is selling something.” It seems like every time I try to deny the truth that life is difficult and often unfair; every time I try and “cheat” that truth of life; every time I try to take a short cut that promises to make life a little less painful, and a little more fun, it seems that I end up worse off afterward than I was at the start! All these earthly “pain killers” have a lot of side effects!
People from all around the world, over the whole existence of time, have asked the question about why life is so full of pain. Have you ever asked that question? Have you ever asked, “Why am I suffering?” or  “Why do good people suffer?” or even, “Why do I seem to be suffering more than the next guy?” Even if we don’t know exactly why suffering happens, it clearly does happen, and today’s Scripture helps to provide some insight to these questions.
First, let’s start with what we know. We know that God is love, and God takes no joy in our suffering! In fact, God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, so that all who believe in him might not die, but instead have eternal life. (JN 3:16) God is love, and Jesus came to definitively conquer sin and death, but sadly, though, sin, and sadness, and pain still exist! So, what gives?
The Catholic answer to sin and suffering is two-fold. The first problem is us. We are weak and have a tendency to choose sin, death, and the devil over virtue, life, and God. Can any of you join me in admitting that WE have been the cause of A LOT of our own suffering? Also, when I’m weak, and when I sin, I often create sadness and suffering for those close to me. Right? My kids suffer when I sin. My mom suffers when I sin. I suffered because of my dad’s sin, and depending upon how much power I have, I can create a lot of suffering for a lot of people! A lot of people want to blame God for suffering, but let’s be honest, we need to blame ourselves, our friends, or others–and not God. In fact, far from blaming him, we need to turn to him and cling to him! The psalm today said, “Blessed the man who follows not the counsel of the wicked,
nor walks in the way of sinners, nor sits in the company of the insolent, but delights in the law of the LORD and meditates on his law day and night.” Ps 1:1-2, 3, 4 and 6
If we want to suffer less, we need to take a look at who we’re hanging around! We need to stop delighting in the way of sinners, and start delighting in the law of the LORD! That is what should be on our mind day and night–not drugs, not alcohol, not money, not violence, not anger, and not destruction. We’re hanging around the wrong people, thinking and doing the wrong things, and are ourselves the cause of A LOT of suffering! Why is the world full of suffering? Because they sin…because you sin…and because I sin. I’m the reason.
The second, “problem” is the mystery of God’s creating a world in a state of journeying to ever greater perfection–and the journey isn’t over yet! Like us, just as I am growing in holiness and journeying toward greater perfection, so too the physical world. The world continues to groan and to grow, to be rejuvenated, and reborn. What we call natural “disasters” are really just the world doing what the world does–volcanoes, landslides, earthquakes, storms, and lightening. These events are not God’s punishment, but the world in motion. Just the reality of life on earth. Life is pain, highness.
We often want to be angry with God when we experience suffering and loss, but far better than being angry with God is to run to him, to cling to him, and to cry with him. Jeremiah tells us today, “Blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD, whose hope is the LORD. He is like a tree planted beside the waters that stretches out its roots to the stream:
it fears not the heat when it comes; its leaves stay green; in the year of drought it shows no distress, but still bears fruit.” Jer 17:5-8 Jeremiah does not say that the conditions are not harsh. He does not say that there is not suffering and sadness–but that the tree rooted in God continues to bear good fruit in the midst of the heat, and drought, the trials and tribulations!
And today, in the Gospel, Jesus gives us the final answer–you are blessed. In the good times and the bad you are blessed. Jesus tells us that just because you are poor does not mean you’re not blessed–your inheritance is the Kingdom of God! You are of a royal bloodline! And just because you are hungry does not mean you’re not blessed–you will indeed be filled and your cup will overflow! And you might indeed be weeping now, but sadness is not your end–your end is in rejoicing and gladness! And if you are excluded and insulted on account of your love of sweet Jesus–well, you can count yourself in good company among the prophets and Saints of the Church!
My brothers, Jesus never promises us a rose garden. No where in Scripture are we ever promised that we will not suffer. In fact–it’s the reverse. Jesus promises us that we will experience trial, hardships, pain and suffering. He tells his disciples, “In this life you will have suffering! But take heart, for I have conquered the world.” (JN 16:33) Jesus does not promise us a rose garden, his promise is that in our darkest days, in our most difficult times, when life is at it’s worst for us–he will be there with us through it all. He will never abandon us, he will never leaves us, and if we cling tightly to him we will ultimately rejoice and be glad in heaven. Life is pain, don’t believe the lies that it is or should be otherwise. It is often painful–but take heart, our God has conquered world–and we conquer with him if only we cling to him. Hold on tightly my brothers. Amen.
For Reflection
What is my attitude about suffering? Do I see it as an opportunity to cling to God and run to him in prayer, or do I become bitter and alienate myself from God?
Do I more often sit in the company of sinners, or do I surround myself with those trying to grow in holiness, who call God their father, and seek him in prayer?
How have I been a cause of suffering for myself and others by poor decisions
By catholicevangelist

Watch Your Mouth!

Today’s reflection is on the Fifth Sunday in Ordinary Time, Sunday February 10, 2019, and the readings can be found by clicking here. This reflection was given as a homily at the Deuel Vocational Institute, California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation, in Tracy.
Last week I said that God can use, and has used, the most unlikely of characters to bring the Good News of salvation, and the message of love to the world! Today we witness the criteria of the messenger. We see that those who call themselves Christians–disciples of the Lord, Jesus Christ must watch their mouth!
God starts with the messenger–the prophet of the Lord, who announces the good news of salvation to the all the world. First of all, what is a prophet? The word “prophet” literally means, “a mouthpiece.” Think of one of those guys who has a puppet on his knee and the puppet speaks for the guy holding it. The puppets mouth is moving, but we all know that the person holding the puppet is doing the talking! The puppet is the mouthpiece of the puppeteer. That’s a helpful way of understanding the biblical prophet. The prophet is not a teller of the future, but a teller of the promises of God and the love of God for his people! That’s a prophet, and that’s what every baptized and confirmed Christian is called to be! We are called to be God’s mouthpiece of salvation to the world.

The C.C.C. #1303 teaches that “Confirmation brings an increase and deepening of baptismal grace: it roots us more deeply as children of God; it unites us more firmly to Christ;…it gives us a special strength of the Holy Spirit to spread and defend the faith by word and action as true witnesses of Christ, to confess the name of Christ boldly, and never to be ashamed of the Cross.”

That’s our call, to spread and defend the faith by word and deed and to boldly confess the name of Jesus. So, step one of being a prophet, is that we need to be willing to allow God to use our lips to proclaim His truth! And God’s truth is holy and pure (and often times our lips are not!) So, step one…clean up that filthy mouth! We too often use profanity, drop “F” bombs all throughout the day, use the name of our God in vein, and speak about others in unholy and disrespectful ways. We talk trash, complain, and create divisions, rivalry, pain, and sadness. The book of James calls the tongue a fire! He say, “It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings who are made in the image of God.” (James 3:6-10)
Growing up we often heard that, “sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will never hurt us,” but you and I know that that simply isn’t true. Words do hurt. Our words can be life giving or death dealing, they can heal and raise others up, and they can create brokenness and bring others down–and we need to watch our mouth. We need to be like Isaiah, who understood that he had a filthy mouth! He said, “Woe is me, I am doomed! For I am a man of unclean lips living among a people of unclean lips!” Can anyone say that with me? Can I get a witness?!” Is 6:1-2a, 3-8
Or like Peter in today’s Gospel, when we encounter the Lord, we don’t stand proud like God’s going to be so impressed with me! No, when we stand next to the God of the universe we stand bare–we stand humiliated by His greatness and generosity, and our own spiritual impoverishment and selfishness. That’s what we mean by fear of the Lord. Have you ever looked in the mirror when you get out of the shower and thought, “What’s this all about? When did I get so flabby? I’m disgusting!” Or you’re at the pool or the lake and some guy walks by that’s your age and height, but geez! the guy is rip-zilla and looks like he NEVER leaves the gym except to walk out to the pool and shame everyone else! It kinda makes us want to put our beer and cookies down and do some push-ups, right? When we stand next to another human we often realize how far we have fallen and how much we need to improve…how much more with God?
With God, we have nothing to brag about and nothing to complain about. Sometimes we’re like, “Jesus, you’re going to be so impressed! I am a Marine!” Jesus says, “Yes, that’s nice. I am God, commander of the legions of heaven. You don’t even have anything on St. Michael the archangel, tough guy.”
“But look how smart I am! I graduated college and can speak some Portuguese and, you know, a little Spanish! Que Bueno, Si?” And Jesus says, “I created all knowledge and every language. In a single moment, my Spirit gave the Apostles the ability to speak in every tongue at Pentecost.” My brothers we have nothing to brag about. No accomplishment to offer. We can’t even boast of our suffering and hardships.
You know how you get together with your buddies and start talking about whose childhood sucked the most! “I grew up poor, Jesus. I hardly ever had anything to eat and dad never paid child-support! Things have been so tough for me!” Jesus says, “I was betrayed by my friend, handed over to be scourged at the pillar, and was crucified, died, and was buried…how tough did you say your life was again?”  When we stand before God, we do not brag, we do not boast, we do not complain and feel sorry for ourselves; like Peter, when we stand before the greatness of God we fall at the knees of Jesus and say, “Depart from me, Lord, for I am a sinful man.”
The example of Isaiah that we are an unclean person living among unclean people, and of Peter that we are sinful men, give us the insight today, that God does not need our lives to have been perfect or great, but he does need us to be aware of who we are, where we’ve been, and have a real desire to change. God needs us to stop lying to ourselves about how great we are or about how bad we’ve been. God needs his people to acknowledge their sins and fall on their knees. And when this happens, if we’re willing to do this, an ember will touch our lips and we will hear, “See, now that this has touched your lips, your wickedness is removed, your sin purged.” We will hear Jesus speak to our hearts; he will say, “Do not be afraid; from now on you will be fisher’s of men.” And it will be so. And we will be called a prophet of the most high God, the Lord Jesus Christ. May God bless you mightily this week. Amen.
For Reflection:
Am I honest with myself and God about my weaknesses and shortcomings?
Do I boast of my accomplishments and take pride in earthly status symbols?
When others hear my words, do they hear the voice of God..a voice filled with love, goodness, and truth?
Am I willing to fall on my knees and acknowledge that I am a sinful man with unclean lips? And do I have a desire to change?
By catholicevangelist

Don’t We Know You?

you don't know me

Today’s reflection is on the Fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time, Sunday February 3, 2019, and the readings can be found by clicking here. This reflection was given as a homily at the Deuel Vocational Institute, California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation, in Tracy.

The Gospel today begins with, “And all spoke highly of him and were amazed at the gracious words that came from his mouth,” and it ends with, “When the people in the synagogue heard this, they were all filled with fury. They rose up, drove him out of the town, and led him to the brow of the hill on which their town had been built, to hurl him down headlong.”

Wow! That’s quite a change in attitude toward Jesus! He went from being a hero to a zero in just a few seconds. What did Jesus say that so bothered his hearers? Jesus walks into the synagogue, opens a scroll and reads the words of the prophet Isaiah that we heard in the Alleluia today, “The Lord sent me to bring glad tidings to the poor, to proclaim liberty to the captives, to restore sight to the blind, and to proclaim a year acceptable to the Lord.” And things were good, and they loved him…until the haters started in! And as we know, haters gonna hate! Everything was so good and then from somewhere in the crowd, we hear, “Hold up! Ain’t that Joseph’s kid? What the…? I know where he’s from! He ain’t no better than us!” Yep, haters gonna hate.

Jesus was not the guy they expected to be giving them the message of salvation. Worse yet, he tells them that they’re not as special as they think they are! For some reason people just like to think that they’re special and that others are not. Jesus tells them that there were lots of widows in Israel, but Elijah (the Jewish prophet) went to a widow that wasn’t Jewish! He went outside the inner circle! And how about Elisha (another Jewish prophet)–he didn’t clean any Jewish lepers, but instead went and cleansed Naaman, the Syrian! Elijah’s words and deeds say, “God loves not just you, but them too,” and Elisha’s words and deeds say, “God loves not just you, but them too,” and Jesus’ own words and actions say, “God loves not just you, but, yes, them too.” Jesus teaches us two very important things in today’s Gospel, one is that God’s love is for everyone–and not only for a select few, and secondly, the truth of God’s great love can come from anyone–even a carpenters son.

Throughout our lives we too can have a tendency to create a special “inner circle.” Close friends are okay, but closing oneself off to others goes too far. Our God is the God of inclusivity. Our God doesn’t make the circle smaller, he opens the circle wide so that all can experience his friendship and love. No matter where we are and no matter who we’re with, if we are his we will act like him–inclusive. Ask yourself, are you more exclusive or more inclusive? Do we belong to a family that always invites the stranger in? Is there always enough no matter who you have over? I had a good friend whose mom always had refried beans in a skillet and a tortilla standing by. Nobody went hungry at her house! Everyone was always welcome! Sarah loved us and fed us and we loved her right back. How about your family? How about your circle of friends? How about your workplaces? How about this place? God is calling us to broaden our horizon and our circle today.

And what about these haters that close their ears to the message of salvation because they don’t like who it’s coming from? The fact is that some people are simply not ready to hear a message of love and light and hope and inclusivity, and they will often find any excuse not to hear the word of God and be transformed. But the truth is that God has been calling broken, sinful, sorrowful people to himself since the beginning of time. God calls the most unlikely people to share the good news of salvation–murderers, adulterers, prostitutes, cowards, and thieves. God does not call the qualified, he qualifies those whom he calls. God just needs the sinful and sorrowful to repent and receive his mercy. He wants a transformation in us–he wants us to love. That’s it. Love…period.

God is love, and love must pour forth in our lives. God loves us first and we are to love others with the love that we have received. In today’s second reading St. Paul tells the Corinthians that it doesn’t matter how “churchy” they are, if they do not have love then they just don’t get it! I love the imagery of the resounding gong! He says, “If I speak in human and angelic tongues, but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal.” If we don’t love then it’s just a bunch of noise! We are nothing and we gain nothing if we don’t have love for those around us. In this Church, we who are gathered here, if we do all kinds of praying, receive the Eucharist, hear God’s word, but then go out that door and are mean, selfish, hurtful, and hateful…we’re no better than anyone else…we have nothing…and we gain nothing, and God can’t use us to advance his kingdom of light and love.

Today’s Gospel demands that we live differently than those who do not know Jesus. It challenges us to be lights shining in this world of darkness. It calls us to wherever we are and whomever we are with to live differently; to live lovingly. I don’t know how each of you are to love in this place, or in that place, with your family, or with your friends…but you do. You know whether your actions are good and loving, or if they’re not. You know if you have the chance to be inclusive in your time and place. Choose to love. Choose to be inclusive. Choose to advance God’s kingdom. Let God heal you and transform you…and let the haters hate.

For reflection:

In my dad-to-day, am more inclusive or exclusive?

I’m I willing to go outside of my comfort zone and invite people into my life?

Is my love genuine and good–or am I just a “resounding gong” or a “clashing symbol”?

Do I know down deep inside, that nothing that I’ve done in my life is too great for God’s mercy, love, and forgiveness?

By catholicevangelist

The Power of Blessing

Today’s reflection is for The Baptism of the Lord, January 13, 2019. Click here for the readings.

Jesus’ Father gives him an amazing gift in the Gospel reading today–his blessing. We heard that, “A voice came from heaven, ‘You are my beloved Son; with you I am well pleased.’” Isn’t that beautiful? This morning I’m going to talk with you about the power of a blessing and the destructiveness of bashing, and then I’ll challenge you to be a balcony person.

As Jesus rises up out of the water his father says to him, you are my beloved…I love you…you make me so happy. What a great thing for a parent to say to their child, and for a child to hear from their parent! In those few words, Jesus knows without a doubt that he is seen and loved by his father. That’s quite a blessing, and it’s that blessing that energizes and empowers Jesus to fulfil his mission and ministry.

The word, “blessing,” was the word used in Old English Bibles to translate the Latin word, “benedicere” which means “to speak well of,” or “to praise.” In Portuguese, that would be “bem dito.” That’s what a blessing is…it’s a good word!

In Portuguese culture, kids are taught to approach their elders for a daily blessing. The Portuguese word for blessing is “bênçã.” So, growing up, I would say, “mãe sua bênçã,” mother your blessing, or “avô sua bênçã,” grandfather, your blessing. The response is, “Deus te abençoou.” They say, “God has blessed you.”

I just want you to dream with me for a bit about a culture or a Kingdom where each morning a child rises, invokes the blessing of their parent only discover to their great joy that they are not only seen and loved by their parent, but they are seen and loved by God. They’ve been loved first thing in the morning. They go off to school with a little pep in their step. They get to school and seek their teacher’s “good word” and it is given. Aware of their own goodness, they in turn affirm the goodness of others. The kids in this kingdom are rooted in God, loved by their parents, and treat others with dignity and respect. Sound familiar? It’s the Kingdom of God, isn’t it? Jesus said, “The Kingdom of God is at hand.” So, the question is, “Is the Kingdom of God at hand for you, for your family, at school, or at your work? I think maybe we could use a lot more blessing in the Kingdom!

A parent’s blessing lifts up and manifests the Kingdom, but tragically, a parent’s bashing breaks down. It is not the Kingdom of God, but the kingdom of brokenness and of sin–and it has no place in our homes, in our schools, in our workplace, or world.

As the dean of students, I deal with a lot of miscreants! You might think I would be filled with righteous anger as one student tramples upon the dignity of another, or be furious that a student would bring drugs or a knife on campus; but actually, it’s the opposite. My worst offenders don’t make me angry, they make me sick. They make me sad. Absentee parents, violent parents, addicted parents, abusive parents. This is the product of bashing. The truth is that the most broken need the greatest blessing… but when their parents don’t bless them, I do. A kind word, a word of encouragement. A chance to start over.

I didn’t have a Father that blessed me. But my wrestling coaches did bless me–Coach Belew, Evans, and Clementi. And my 6th grade teacher, Mrs. Nevins, she blessed me. Always praising, always challenging, always uplifting! My coaches and teachers made the Kingdom of God present to me.

You see, everyone needs someone in their balcony. You know what a balcony person is, right? That’s the person hootin’ and holerin’ for you as you do your best! Jesus had John the Baptist AND God the Father in his balcony! They were up there talkin’ him up, rootin’ him on, and encouraging him to greatness! God says, “That’s my boy, right there!” “I see you! I love you! You’re makin’ me proud!” and John the Baptist says to the crowd, “You think I’m great? Just wait til you see my cousin! This guy’s amazing! I’m not worthy!”  Everyone needs a balcony person. Think for a moment..who was the balcony person in your life? Now think again, would anyone name you as the person in their balcony? Your wife? Your kids? Your grandkids? Do you see them, do you love them? Do you bless them? How about your co-workers? The guests at the men’s shelter? The poor on the street? Do you uplift? Do you encourage? Do you give others a benedicere?

To close, I want to challenge you this week to grow the Kingdom of God by blessing, and to destroy the Kingdom of sin by not bashing. Seven is a holy and good number and I’m going to challenge each of you to consciously give seven blessings everyday this week. Jesus changed the world with his father’s blessing. And you can inspire others to change the world with yours. God sees you. He loves you. He is so very pleased with you. Amen.

By catholicevangelist

A Holy Family

Holy Family

Today’s reflection is for the Feast of the Holy Family, December 30, 2018. Click here for the readings from the U.S. Bishop’s website.

This gospel passage, unique to Luke, focuses on the pubescent Jesus. As the Dean of Discipline at a local junior high school, I’m not surprised that the Gospel writers did NOT include more stories from Jesus’ journey toward adulthood! The evangelist, Mark, wisely skips the question of Jesus’ birth altogether and jumps right into his adult ministry, and although Matthew includes an infancy narrative, he too skips the pubescent stage of Jesus’ life! Naturally, the gospel writers were particularly concerned about Jesus’ adult ministry, but I think Luke offers quite a gem in his sole account of Jesus in his “pre-teen” stage. Luke gives parents and children alike some insights into what makes up a “holy family,” and teaches us to what is required to “advance in wisdom and age and favor before God and man.” Let’s take a look at just a few instances in the overall narrative from Luke 2:41-52 to see what we might glean from Jesus’ youth.

First, I want to point out that the Holy Family “went to Jerusalem for the feast of Passover…according to the festival custom.” Many families today are engaged in so many good things that place considerable demand on a family’s time. My own sons are busy with competitive gymnastics and fishing, school activities and sports, birthday parties, and the like. While all of these things are good and important, we must appreciate the temporal nature of these things and be mindful to spend time on things eternal–things that nourish and develop the soul in its orientation toward God. Like the Holy Family, we must participate in our Church community, it’s celebrations, festivities and Holy Days.

Especially at this time of year there are no shortage of wonderful things happening in our parishes–All soul’s day/Saint’s day activities, Thanksgiving dinners and volunteer opportunities, Advent gatherings, and fund drives, Holy Days of Obligation Masses, midnight Masses, Christmas plays, and Feast of the Epiphany celebrations! It’s almost as though when the weather gets colder, the Church prompts our hearts to become warmer! Admittedly, our own family could have done a better job this year attending parish functions–we’ve definitely got some room for improvement! Jesus, Mary, and Joseph-pray for us!

Another gem I’d like to point out is when Mary and Joseph go looking for Jesus. They don’t find him “on the streets,” “on the X-Box,” nor on his “iPhone.” No, “they found him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions.” Kids are curious! They have a thousand questions and they need at least a hundred teachers offering two thousand answers! Kids and their questions can annoy us and confound us! Jesus has a lot of questions about God, customs and practices, the temple, life, the universe, Scriptures, relationships, and every other topic imaginable! He’s looking for answers and he’s searching for someone to teach him! 

The truth is that parents must take the time to talk with their kids, and ensure that when they are not around, there are other family members and members of the parish community that can answer those questions in a Godly, wholesome way. SOMEONE will be talking to our kids and answering their questions–if not you, then who? When I taught at a continuation high school, I often found myself having conversations with young people about topics that their parent should have been talking with them about, but for whatever reason, just weren’t. I shared the same wisdom with my students that I spoke to my own kids about. Topics included, healthy relationships, the adverse effects of drugs and alcohol, the importance of education and its effect on employment, and about things eternal.

When kids don’t have trusted adults to turn to they end up getting really bad advice from people who are as lost as they are! A boat lost at sea does not find safe harbor in other ships lost at sea! It may indeed find company, but both are equally lost. It is important to surround our children with parents, godparents, youth groups, church groups, and other responsible role models. I once heard, “If you want your children to talk to you about the really big things, then you need to talk to them about all the little things, because to them, they are all big things.” True enough. Take all topics seriously, and no topic should be entirely off the table–though it might need to be postponed to a more appropriate time or place!

Finally, after all was done and said in Jerusalem, “[Jesus] went down with [Mary and Joseph] and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them.” Jesus teaches us that obedience is required of all youths in the family, and the truly holy family does not see discipline as an unwelcome guest. Hebrews 12:11 teaches, “At the time, all discipline seems a cause not for joy but for pain, yet later it brings the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who are trained by it.” While there is not a direct connection between obedience and discipline, I think that families today struggle with discipline out of fear that it is somehow antagonistic or incongruent with love. I am entirely convinced that just as Jesus learned to walk and to talk, so too did he have to learn the fruit of obedience to his parents will.

The catechism teaches quite clearly that children owe their parents both respect and obedience until the age of emancipation, after which time respect–but not necessarily obedience–is required (2217). It teaches that, “Respect for parents derives from the gratitude toward those who, by the gift of life, their love and their work, have brought their children into the world and enabled them to grow in stature, wisdom and grace.” Furthermore, it goes on to say that respect is shown, “by true docility and obedience,” and that, “As long as a child lives at home with his parents, the child should obey his parents in all that they ask of him when it is for his good or that of the family.” (2214-2217) 

The Holy Family today provides a lot for us to live up to–both parents and children. As parents we must be immersed in the life of the Church–its Holy Days, festivals, and celebrations. We must take the time to see, hear, and speak with our children, answer  questions, find answers to questions together, and surround our children with wisdom figures whose eyes and hearts are fixed on things eternal. And finally, it’s okay to demand obedience from our kids–and discipline is not a bad thing! Better for our children to learn in the home when the stakes are low that disobedience has a consequence. Too many never learn about consequences and eventually find themselves as wards of the state–or worse yet, may indeed find themselves outside of heaven’s gates altogether. Lord have mercy.

May you and your children, like Jesus advance in wisdom and age and favor
before God and man. Amen.

For refection:

Do we attend and/or make serious effort to attend church functions and spend time with like-minded Catholic Christians?

Do I take the time to walk and talk with my kids, to enter into their life, and offer the wisdom that they seek?

Do I value discipline and believe that in time it “produces the fruit of righteousness for those trained in it?”

By catholicevangelist

A Lesson From A Tree

FigsToday’s reflection is based on the Thirty-third Sunday in Ordinary Time, Nov. 18, 2018.

As we near the end of the Church’s Liturgical cycle, we reflect more seriously about the end of all things–the end of life and the end of time. As the adage goes, all good things must come to and end. But today we ask the question with regard to the end, do we recognize its nearness? Are we prepared?

Jesus tells his disciples that as the end nears, there will be difficulties, darkness, and chaos. Jesus uses natural imagery to reveal the truth of what happens in our world and in our heart as the end approaches. He says, “In those days after that tribulation the sun will be darkened, and the moon will not give its light, and the stars will be falling from the sky, and the powers in the heavens will be shaken.” While THE END of all things will certainly be a scary sight to see, for 2,000 years no one has seen it, and while we may or may not see the FINAL end in our lifetime, we can certainly look around and be quite afraid of the present darkness in our world, or even be afraid of our own final hour.
Dormant FigWhen things get difficult or scary, I know that I too often cling tightly to the ‘ol saying, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going!” But Jesus today offers a different way of thinking; an alternative to what is natural to us. Jesus tells us that the fig tree has much to teach us in this regard–how we should respond when times become dark and when the end is near.
Far from becoming hard in our heart and in our head, we should instead do exactly the opposite! When times get tough for us, we should realize also that times are tough for others as well. And the truth is that many others have it much worse than you or I!  Instead of becoming hard and circling the wagons when things become difficult for us, we should instead become tender and soft and produce much fruit! We should show more love, share more joy, bring more peace, have more patience, be more kind, more gentleness, and more faithful, and display not less, but more self control. (GAL 5:22)
Sprouting FigJesus tells his disciples, “Learn a lesson from the fig tree. When its branch becomes tender and sprouts leaves, you know that summer is near.” MK 13:24-32
The fig tree becomes dormant during the winter and its branches become very hard. That’s okay for the fig tree, but not good for us! When the storms ofl ife come, if  we are in the midst of our “winter,” when life becomes difficult and we begin to struggle, we must resist becoming hard to the world and to the needs of others around us. As Jesus’ disciples, we are called to produce the fruit of the Holy Spirit mentioned above both in and out of season. We are called at all times and in all places to be the light of Jesus Christ–to bring warmth and goodness, and healing and love to those in need. We simply cannot do that if our hearts are dormant!
And so Jesus tells us today, that in these last days our hearts must become more tender not less. Our hands and hearts must become warmer–not cooler. We must be more generous in our dealings with others, not less. In spite of greater economic uncertainty, we must become more joyful and generous with our giving to those in need. In a consumeristic society bent on convincing us that we do not have enough, we must be more convinced than ever that our cup runneth over! We must be more grateful, more loving, more Thankful–and that’s right on time!
As we celebrate Thanksgiving with family and friends, remember the lesson from the fig tree. Be tender of heart. Produce much fruit. Be generous with others who have so much less, and for the love of Jesus Christ, GIVE THANKS and be grateful for all that we have. Jesus tells his disciples that the end is indeed near, “But of that day or hour, no one knows, neither the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.” If we can learn and live this lesson from the fig tree, then we won’t have to know when our end will come, not the FINAL end, because we’ll be ready!
Happy Thanksgiving!
For Reflection:
What is my natural tendency when life becomes difficult for me?
Am I producing the fruit of the Spirit-filled life? How can I do a better job as Thanksgiving approaches?
How can I be an instrument of peace and generosity during Thanksgiving and as the Christmas Season approaches?
With what has God blessed me, that I might be His blessing to the widow, the orphan, the immigrant, the religious, the homeless, the incarcerated, and the destitute, both near and far?
By catholicevangelist

Your two cents

Today’s reflection is taken from the thirty-third Sunday in ordinary time.

Not so long ago there was a very popular country song by Billy Rae Cyrus called Some Gave All. The song was written in honor of a veteran he had met in 1989, and all of the men and women who put their life on the line for the love of their country. As the lyrics go, All gave some, some gave all. Ultimately, the song seeks to honor and recognize that in this life there are those who are willing to give their life for something or someone greater than themselves.

On this Veteran’s Day weekend, I want to give a shout out to all who “gave some” and offer a prayer for “some who gave all.” I want to also recognize that, tragically, approximately 20 veterans commit suicide every day in the U.S.

I joined the Marines right out of high school (pictured here on the left), as did my dad (pictured here on the right) and uncle before me. I joined right after the first invasion of Iraq, in 1992 and was blessed with a 4-year tour free of conflict. Our soldiers today enjoy no such peace in their time of service. Many who join today give their whole life in the service of our country, and all who join take that same risk. Today we stop to reflect on the life they selflessly offer for our good and the good of others, and to give thanks for it.

Many Marines with whom I served are surprised to discover I am a man of God and a candidate for ordination to the permanent diaconate, and many in the Church are surprised that I am a former Force Recon Marine, but the truth is that the requirements for both are shockingly similar.

Both require a willingness to serve and maybe even to lose one’s life for claiming the title. Both require discipline and courage. Both require selfless sacrifice and long suffering. Both require a love of fellow man and a sure binding to one’s brothers and sisters in service. Both require knowledge and study, time alone to reflect and time together to train. And both demand that a man or woman be “all in.” There’s no half-way with either.

The Gospel today invites us to consider what it really means to go all in for Jesus. Many wealthy people offered large sums of money–but according to Jesus, there were yet far from total commitment. It was only the poor widow today that made the leap from mere “involvement” to total “commitment.” I’ve heard that the difference between a chicken and a pig in the making of eggs and bacon for breakfast, is the difference between involvement and commitment. The chicken is certainly involved in the endeavor, but there is no bacon without the pig’s life–total commitment is required.

Sadly, in our Church we have a lot of chickens and very few pigs. As Americans, myself included, we have a difficult time giving up all for him, and many are simply unwilling to give him their last two cents. Jesus demands time and time again that those who would follow him be of a total commitment sort. Like the widow of Zarephath in the first reading, we need to hear the call to faith and put ALL out confidence in God’s providential care for us–not an easy thing to do for sure–which might help to explain why Western nations are experiencing such a shortage of vocations to the priesthood and to religious life. For too many who have wealth, it’s asking too much. We don’t mind being involved–but committed we are not.

On this Veterans Day weekend, take the time to pause and reflect on the commitment given by so many veterans, stop, thank, and shake a veteran’s hand–especially if he or she is homeless and hungry, and pray for the souls of those who have died both in the service of, and because of the service to our nation. Be inspired by their commitment to others and a greater cause, and be willing to commit yourself to others and the greatest cause, Jesus Christ and His kingdom.

Take it or leave it, after all, it’s just my two cents.

May God bless and care for you, Stephen

For reflection:

Have I freely committed my time, talent, and treasure to the Lord and His Church?

How is God calling me to love and serve him and my neighbor?

How can I help support and encourage vocations to the priesthood and religious life?

Do I appreciate the freedoms and blessings that have been won for me by Jesus Christ and by brave men and women in uniform? How can I show it?

By catholicevangelist

Son of Timaeus

Blind BartimeusToday’s reflection is on the readings for the Thirtieth Sunday in Ordinary Time, October 28, 2018.

What’s in a name? In today’s Gospel Jesus encounters a blind man, a social nobody, an outcast, and a sinner. He meets Bartimaeus. Even Bartimaeus’ name reveals only that he is some else’s son. (bar means “son of”) Poor Bartimaeus really has nothing to offer anyone–not even a name of his own. But today Jesus changes all of that for him, and offers a promise to all of us.

Because Bartimaeus was blind, he was reduced to begging, poverty, and dependence on nothing more than the generosity of others. He cries out day and night in the hopes that someone might offer him something that will sustain him for the day. Any more than that and he becomes an easy target for thieves. He depends at every moment on the pity and  generosity of others–a difficult and horrible way to live. Bartimaeus’ poor circumstances have paved the way for his encounter with Jesus Christ, and for salvation. Let’s see Bartimaeus’ three steps to salvation in Jesus Christ.

First, like Bartimaeus, we need to recognize our poverty and our need for Jesus. The Gospel writer tells us that Bartimaeus was a beggar on the roadside out of Jericho. Bartimaeus had no misgivings about his lot. He brought nothing of his own to his relationship with Jesus. Not fame, not fortune, only sadness and sorrow and difficulty. He knew that he needed. That’s a lot of our problem in our country. We’ve got it pretty good. Jesus makes it very clear, he has come for those who are sick. Bartimaeus knew he needed–do we? Or is earthly wealth and comfort blinding us to our need for spiritual healing and wholeness? It’s quite easy to begin to believe our Facebook profile!
Secondly, we need to cry out! Upon hearing news that Jesus was coming his way, Bartimaeus cried out, “Jesus, son of David, have pity on me.” We need to know that we need, and then we need to make our needs known! Jesus hears Bartimaeus call out to him! That is the power of prayer! If we’re not praying, we’re not being heard! Jesus makes it clear to his disciples that they must ask! It’s crazy that so many Christians spend so little time in prayer–me included! The whole Old Testament if filled with examples of God’s people crying out to Him for delivery–and then God delivers them. The New Testament is equally filled with those who cry out and are delivered. Prayer must occupy a central part in every believer’s life. Jesus asks Bartimaeus plainly, “What do you want me to do for you?” Bartimaeus says, “Master, I want to see,” and then he does. Are you in need? What do you want? Ask.
Finally, Bartimaeus teaches us that we have to be courageous! Bartimaeus was surrounded by haters! Everyone kept telling him to shut up! I’m sure there were beggars like him saying, “Why bother, don’t you know we’re nothing? We’re nobody! Why would he help us?!” Bartimaeus didn’t care! He kept on crying out! Others in the crowd thought they were pretty important. They figured that if Jesus was going to talk to anyone it would be them! They too tell him to shut it! Undeterred by haters, Bartimaeus boldly and courageously called on Jesus to heal him and transform his life. Jesus told him, “Go your way; your faith has saved you.”
So there you have it, salvation through relationship with Jesus in three steps. 1. Recognize our need. 2. Cry out to Him. 3. Be courageous. I’d like to leave you with that, but the story does not end there, I’m afraid. Those who know their needs know that their needs do not go away. Those who know their needs don’t go away know they will be crying out to Him again. And those who cry out to him often will need constant courage–a gift of the Holy Spirit.
The final step, then, is to follow him on the way. To remain close to him always. The Gospel writer intentionally tells us that healing demands a willingness to follow Jesus–wherever he goes. St. Mark says, “Immediately he received his sight and followed him on the way.”
Bartimaeus found Jesus, found humility, found his voice, and found his courage–and by doing so discovered his ultimate identity in being a son of God–and we can too. That’s his promise. In Jesus we are no longer son of Stephen, daughter of Janice. In Jesus Christ by the power of the Holy Spirit, with humility, prayer, and courage we can all follow him–and so we must.

For Reflection:

What earthly pleasures possess you, and keep you from recognizing your need for Jesus?

How much of your day is spent in prayer? How important is it for you to spend time alone with the Lord in prayer?

To what degree do you allow “haters” and “nay-sayers” to affect your relationship with God? Who are those in your life keeping you from a relationship with Jesus?

If you’ve been healed, are you following Him?

By catholicevangelist

“What Is” or “Ought To Be”


Today’s reflection is for the Twenty-seventh Sunday in Ordinary Time, October 7, 2018.

According to Business Insider, Millennials rank the world’s top 10 most serious problems in the following order:

10. Lack of economic opportunity and employment (12.1%), 9. Safety / security / well-being (14.1%), 8. Lack of education (15.9%), 7. Food and water security (18.2%), 6. Government accountability and transparency / corruption (22.7%) , 5. Religious conflicts (23.9%), 4. Poverty (29.2%), 3. Inequality (income, discrimination) (30.8%), 2. Large scale conflict / wars (38.9%), 1. Climate change / destruction of nature (48.8%)

I don’t know that I would agree with these exact problems, nor would I necessarily have them in this order, but I would agree with Millennials that these problems are real and concerning. I would add to the list the scourge of abortion and the increasing number of divorces, addiction, homelessness, and suicides. I would also add to the list the degradation of fertile land, the over fishing of the world’s rivers and oceans, the destruction of entire species, the unjust distribution of the world’s resources and the lack of governmental unity on all of the issues listed above. We are in a state of crisis and more than I hear, “How can I help?, What can I do?” or “To what degree am I contributing?” I instead hear, “Well, that’s just the way it is.”

Acknowledgement of the crisis as present and real takes very little effort and presents very little challenge, if any. It creates very little discomfort and does not require an evaluation and transformation of the way I live and engage in the world. In fact, simple acknowledgement of the problem appears either unconcerned, or a bit of a defeatist. Christians, of course, are neither. We care a lot and are empowered by the Holy Spirit to care about unity, healthfulness of relationships, and the planet of which God has called has called us to be stewards.

In the reading from the Book of Genesis today God calls Adam to be united to another like him. It’s the great story of what every man says when he meets his life-mate, and what I said when I met mine, “This one, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; this one shall be called ‘woman, ‘for out of ‘her man’ this one has been taken.” Right when I saw Jill I knew she and I were one flesh. Almost fifteen years and two children later, it is more true than ever. It is not good for me to be alone and she is a fabulous partner for me in my life.

My wife helps me to be a better person. She challenges me to live up the the high calling I’ve received in Jesus Christ to be a man of character, strength, discipline and holiness. And I don’t care how many people mock the Church with regard to it’s stance on divorce and remarriage, its insistence on chastity and holiness within marriage, and it’s call to being open to life within marriage, I know from the deepest part of my being that this is the way it ought to be–Man and woman serving each other in mutual care and concern for each other, their children, their church, and their world. And to be clear, this is not only the Catholic Church’s teaching, this is the teaching of Jesus himself that we hear in today’s Gospel.

Jesus said, “But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female.  For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate.”  In the house the disciples again questioned Jesus about this.  He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” (MK 10:2-16) Put plainly, Jesus is clearly against divorce, and so is the church he established. There’s just no way around it without clearly violating the teaching of Jesus and the Apostles in every generation who teach what he taught.

In light of the 6th Commandment, Jesus and the Catholic Church today call us to never lower the bar nor to settle for what is. Jesus and the Church challenge society to recognize and to strive for what out to be! I know from personal experience that tragedy, brokenness, violence,  and civil divorce do occur. The sinfulness of humanity cannot be ignored and the dignity and safety of people–and especially children cannot be jeopardized. But we cannot and must not be okay with the brokenness. As Christians we must admit that although this is the way it sometimes is, it is not the way it ought to be. Everything short of man and woman united together forever in love is less-than-ideal and should be recognized as so.

I remember giving a retreat on the beauty of the Church’s teaching on Holy Matrimony. More than a few people there were quite willing to voice their anger about their single family home–either the one they’re in or the one in which they were raised. One woman said, “My dad left us and my mom did the best she could with the cards she was dealt.” I agreed whole-heartedly. “That’s not the way it ought to be,” I said. Sadly, though, it is the way things too often are. I shared with her my own experience of a single mom striving mightily to put food on the table with three kids and an abusive husband. That’s not the way it ought to be. That’s not the way Jesus wanted it. That’s not the way the Church wants it. For the love of God, let’s never never lower the bar and settle for brokenness just because that’s the way it is. Let’s continue to talk about the beauty, unity, goodness, faithfulness, and life-long, life-giving companionship that ought to be!

And while I’m on what ought to be, Genesis also teaches about humanity’s stewardship and care for all of God’s Creation. The Biblical account of creation is NOT about things or no things, but that all things have their proper origin in God. God created every living thing, but important to understanding the proper relationship of all things to God and to each other, we read that, “The LORD God formed out of the ground various wild animals and various birds of the air, and he brought them to the man to see what he would call them; whatever the man called each of them would be its name.  The man gave names to all the cattle, all the birds of the air, and all wild animals.” GN 2:18-24 Now we know that ultimately, none of these animals proved to be suitable to the man, but the naming of them is significant.

In the Hebrew tradition, which rings true still today, to name something is to claim a degree of authority over it. Not unlike a parent naming a child. To name a child or even a pet for that matter, is to say that the child or pet is now under that namer’s protection and care. The one with the authority to name has become its provider and protector. The Genesis account is quite clear that humanity indeed has the high calling of providing for and protecting the whole of God’s creation–plants, animals, rivers, oceans, and air. God created, and gifted us with the great responsibility of ensuring that his creation was cared for. The story of Genesis doesn’t just teach about things or no things, it teaches the right relationship between all things to God and to one another. Genesis teaches the right relationship of man to God, of man to fellow man, and man to the earth. Right relationships is the way it ought to be. Everything that falls short of that right relationship is what we call sin.

My brothers and sisters, we have not been good stewards. That’s the way it is. Over fishing, over hunting, poaching, poor land management, pollution of the air, land, and sea are just the beginning. The 7th Commandment recognizes that this earth is not mine or yours to destroy, but is instead a stewardship to be respected, to be used with care, and treasured for future generations to enjoy. To fail in this regard is to to steal from future generations. And stealing is a sin!

Click here for an amazing resource for our Church’s many teachings on Care for Creation and Stewardship of the Earth from the US Catholic Bishiops website. It is an excellent primer with links to a variety of church social teaching on the environment and care for our common home. It would be worth your time to peruse the Bishop’s website. It has a ton of useful topics, teachings, news, and resources.

The story of Genesis has much to teach us about marriage and family, sin and grace, about the earth and all that inhabit it, and the way things ought to be. Let’s not lower the bar and settle for the way it is, we are about working toward and striving mightily to achieve together what ought to be!

For Reflection:

How familiar am I with Jesus and the Church’s teaching on the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony?

To what degree am I involved in strengthening my marriage and family, and helping to support other marriages in crisis?

How much do I concern myself with the environment and familiarize myself with what the Church teaches in that regard?

How much do my own spending habits, consumption, and lifestyle negatively impact the environment and the poorest of the earth?

By catholicevangelist

Welcome, Friend!

Today’s reflection is for the Twenty-sixth Sunday in Ordinary Time, September 30, 2018.

Today’s reading from Numbers and the Gospel today make one thing abundantly clear, namely, that God is calling upon, blessing, and raising up workers to do his work and his will…and we might not know anything about it. Deal with it. And if you’re smart and holy, give thanks.

There are far more workers in the vineyard of the Lord than any of us can possibly imagine. Don’t quench the Spirit! Let it burn like a disco inferno!

I know it is quite popular to say to those who weren’t there, “You don’t understand, you just had to be there.” Well, actually, that’s just not true with God! Numbers makes that clear. Eldad and Medad not were not with the others when God’s spirit descended upon the 68 elders!

You can just imagine how it went during Joshua’s roll call…”Eldad!? Has anyone seen Eldad!? Okay, last time, Eldad!? Well, you know the ‘ol saying boys,” Joshua must have said, “you snooze, you lose!” Well, turns out that God was using Eldad and Medad anyway! And all those present weren’t very happy about it!

“Hey!” I can hear them say, “what the heck are they doing, man?! They were called, but they’re not qualified! You must be present to win! EVERYBODY knows that!” They no doubt complained to Joshua, who then complained to Moses, “Make ’em stop!”

Make ’em stop?! Are you kidding me?! Keep them going! Moses said, “Would that all the people of the LORD were prophets! Would that the LORD might bestow his spirit on them all!” You see, Moses knew it wasn’t about him at all, or those there on that day either, it was only about God’s work in the world. How excited Moses must have been to discover what God was able to do without him. Whew! That relieves a lot of pressure! Nm 11:25-29

Moses either knew all along, or was able to see that very day, that God’s plan of salvation is unfolding, and God can use even those not present to receive the Spirit in the ordinary way. Moses knew that some of those called by God might receive the Spirit in an extra-ordinary way known only to they and God. It’s by their fruit that you’ll know them. You’ll know because they will prophesy in His name. How exciting!

The Second Vatican Council in the document Gaudium et Spes #22 affirmed this truth when it wrote, “Since Christ died for all men, and since the ultimate vocation of man is in fact one, and divine, we ought to believe that the Holy Spirit in a manner known only to God offers to every man the possibility of being associated with this paschal mystery.”

And the CCC 847 says it like this, “Those who through no fault of their own, do not know the Gospel of Christ or His Church, but who nevertheless seek God with a sincere heart, and, moved by grace, try in their actions to do his will as they know it through the dictates of their conscience—those too may achieve eternal salvation.

And in today’s Gospel, the apostle John plays the role of the new Joshua, son of Nun, and Jesus plays the role of the new Moses. Crazy that in the approximately 2,050 since Moses taught that important lesson, Jesus had to teach it again.

Today’s Gospel reads, “At that time, John said to Jesus, ‘Teacher, we saw someone driving out demons in your name, and we tried to prevent him because he does not follow us.’ Jesus replied, ‘Do not prevent him. There is no one who performs a mighty deed in my name who can at the same time speak ill of me. For whoever is not against us is for us.’ Mk 9:38-43, 45, 47-48

And here we are 2,000 years later trying to teach the same. Some things never change, I’m afraid. So many seek to place limits on God. Too many want to think that their way is THE way that God is advancing the Kingdom, or worse, that they’re the only ones doing God’s work.

Hear the words of Moses and Jesus, look around and gives thanks to the environmentalists doing God’s work, to the peacemakers doing God’s work, to the Social Servants doing God’s work, to the teachers, plumbers, nutritionists, administrators, vegans, Republicans, Iranians, women’s rights activists, lawyers, Muslims and others of good will all doing the work of advancing God’s kingdom of justice and mercy and peace.

Catholic theologian, Karl Rahner, introduced the notion of the anonymous Christian wherein he declares that people who might have never heard the Christian Gospel might indeed be saved through Christ. One might even say that just because they weren’t in the room, doesn’t mean they didn’t receive the Spirit! And certainly, at the very least, we might agree with Jesus that whoever is not against us, is for us. It is, after all, by their fruits–either thorns or berries–that you will know the true prophets of God, (MT 7:16-20) regardless of by what name they are known.

For Reflection

Do I sometimes believe that it’s “my way or the highway?”

Am I open to the prophetic voice irrespective of its origin?

Do I listen attentively to all people, even if I don’t agree with them entirely, knowing that there could be a kernel of God’s truth in their message?

Am I a prophetic voice of reason and truth at work and in my home?

Do others hear God when they hear me?

By catholicevangelist